In general, talking is difficult (for me). Small talk is more difficult (for me). But talking on the phone takes the first place in the difficulty, trickiness, wittiness and sometimes, the fakeness involved. You have to talk, you have to small talk, and you have to do it fast.
Why does the problem stand?
- Primarily because, its like learning to speak a new language. We humans use our visual sense the most, to interact with the outside world. The colours we see define our perspective about an object. Visual signals are faster in to-and-fro communications between the brain and the eye. Auditory signals are french if the visual ones are hindi.
- Also, audio signals when received by the brain, give lesser remembrance scope. You get fewer brain-landmarks. If you see something, you are more probable to remember it than if you listen it.
- You don't see the person you are talking to. You can even make weird faces while he/she speaks. And then quickly resume talking when your time comes. To think that the other person might be doing this to me, is scary.
- It generally takes 10 minutes to scrutinize a person, his/her body language, present state of mind, future course of action in a face to face encounter. No? Whatever, it takes me 10 minutes. The inability to do it on the phone. Arghh..
- I can't chit chat. Not in the traditional way. Not that fast. Train talks and short meetings don't reveal the real person beneath. Some say it is used for this purpose itself. Most of the chit chat in daily life includes talking about the weather. How it is always a bit cold, hot, humid than the previous year. I have made a point to not talk at all, if I see myself talking about the weather with someone. And that is often. Instead of talking, I listen, I see, I observe; the birds chirping, the trees growing, the Sherlock series. Basically, I have found other methods to waste my time. Maybe this is the primary reason.
- So, can I "chat" on facebook and whatsapp? Yes. But texts are only a bit more comforting than phones, because you get time to think, re-think and rewrite over there. And see I am writing a blog.
The "oh-so-hyped-there-can-be-a-multi-crore-scam-for-it" mobile phone call is used by me only for vital information exchanges. That saves money if you aren't still impressed. Save all that money and invest in anything other than Mutual funds. That's another over-hyped thing.
Thanks for reading.
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